Broadly speaking, you probably agree with the large majority of the views commonly attributed to whichever group you identify with - what are the exceptions? Something that if you mention without a caveat immediately makes people jump to conclusions or even attack you?
I think women are very interested in sex, and pre-modern times the stereotype was that women were the horny gender.
But I think what you’re describing is more about gendered social norms in conversation. The fact that (some) groups of men don’t talk about sex that openly is because sexual prowess is tied up with social status and most men wouldn’t feel comfortable discussing sexual problems, failing to satisfy their partners, not really enjoying sex or anything like that for fear it makes them less of a man. And because of that, guys talking about how much sex they’re having, or how they tried this new thing and their lady went wild for it, kinda come across like they’re bragging.
sex is social status for both men and women.
largely derived form the ‘worth’ of the sexual partner. low value partners are something to be ashamed of, high value ones are to be bragged about to peers.
I think when you really break down sexual behaviors and all that, there is very little difference in men vs women and sex. The major difference is the narrative they pursue and tell themselves about sex though. And very few people can separate out their behaviors from the narrative they tell themselves.
You’re not entirely wrong but my point is actually that yes it is literally and directly true that it is more important to women than men. I say this from a lifetime of lived experience as a non binary person, I’ve spent my life in both groups.
It is so bad, when I’m with groups of women I often think to myself, is the only thing these people think about… men? (edit: This also applies to bi and lesbian women… all they talk about is every chick they’ve fucked, how they were wronged by their partner, who they’d like to fuck, and the dynamics of their relationships and social drama)