Thurstylark

This is the right attitude. I would encourage folks to be a bit less goal-oriented (orgasms don’t have to be everything), but you’ve got the spirit, and you get credit for that.

There is absolutely no shame in providing your partner with a good time, regardless of the tools involved in the process. Whether those tools are part of one’s body or not matters very little in the grand scheme of things.

Yeah, this is between y’all, and it can stay that way. If all parties involved are getting what they want out of the experiences they have together, I don’t see any problem.