Most of these just seem to be features of decentralisation. And if decentralisation isn’t your thing, neither is Lemmy honestly. Just stick to Reddit.
I really think Fediverse shouldn’t be thought of as an alternative to proprietary social media that any average user can just switch to. There’s a completely different mindset behind it, where you’re not a passive consumer but a creator and a developper, responsible for the growth of the project the same way its original creators are. Same thing as with Windows and Linux.
It’s just rejecting your responsibility in the way you behave. “It’s not me, it’s the nature”