I’m under average sized, but my fiancé and I have a good sex life. She enjoys sex with me (that part isn’t in question). She reacts and sometimes even has light PIV orgasms when we do.
She’s also shared that in some positions she doesn’t feel as much physically. She still values the emotional connection and wants me inside her, and we do this very often.
However, after some conversation, we agreed to buy an expensive very realistic dildo that’s significantly larger than me… The size difference is obvious, and when we use it together, her physical reactions and orgasms are noticeably more intense. I use it with a harness and pretend it’s me, and I know for certain that’s the only reason it even works for her. For context I’m 4” long and 4” circumference, and the dildo is 8” long by 6”.
I know a lot of guys might find this embarrassing, but I like to see her get pleasure. Do you see any potential downside to this?
There is nothing wrong with using toys with someone you love and want to give pleasure to. A toy alone works to make a person climax but they are so much better when you have another person there to share it with.
I look at toys as something that makes it a little bit easier to ring her bell. Sometimes it’s about her desire to orgasm while I am inside of her.
My late wife found it more and more difficult to climax at all before she passed and I still remember her last one riding me with a toy on her clitorous. If I had been intimidated by a toy I wouldn’t likely have that memory at all as it had been about a year before that when she had last climaxed which also included a similar toy. Being together was the most important part of it.